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10 Ideas to Help Your Child’s Wellbeing during These new times

by FAMILY talk

What can we do to help our child’s wellbeing after these uncertain and confusing times? 

Anisa Lewis has 10 ideas to share

1. Find joy and be grateful

Encourage your children to find joy in the simple and the ordinary, to be grateful for what they have.

2. Let them be bored

Boredom is a wonderful gift we can give our children, it teaches them to be comfortable with themselves, to be creative in finding solutions and allows them to understand that instant gratification isn’t always an option.

You may need to create a boredom ideas list with them or set up a box of boredom-busting activities to start them off with.

Have the strength when they come to you bored not to ‘fix’ it for them, ask open-ended questions ‘What can you do to not be bored?’

3. Look for small ways to connect with them

Can you leave them notes under their pillows?

Text them and tell them you are thinking of them?

Make a special meal once a week where you all eat by candlelight?

See article on connecting with your family here

4. Give them time to talk to their friends and loved ones

One of the biggest losses for our children during this period of social distancing is of course the social aspect of their lives.

Set up zoom calls, let them FaceTime friends and family, join an online house party, go round to grandparents home and talk to them through the window.

A bit of creative thinking here could go far.

5. Introduce them to mindfulness

Mindfulness is about being in the present moment, engaging with their senses.

Could you set some activities up through the week, which allows them to engage more than one sense at once?

Cooking, play dough with essential oils, blowing bubbles and listening to them pop, listing what they can see, hear, taste, touch and smell at any given moment.

6. Teach them how to use breathing to calm emotions

Breathing is something that our kids rarely, if ever, think about but is a tool that can be very powerful in calming emotions.

Get your son or daughter to breathe in through their nose and out through their mouth 3 or 4 times. We want the breath to come from their belly rather than their chest.

You may wish to work on this at bedtime, ask your child to lie in their bed and place a rubber duck or a lightweight toy on their belly. Then ask them to breathe in through their nose and out through their mouth and watch while they are doing this, the item placed on their belly should naturally rise and fall.

7. Encourage your children to problem solve

Problem-solving is a life skill and one that can be developed from any age.

I encourage you when your child comes to you with a ‘problem’ to empower them to be a problem solver, an investigator or a big thinker.

This can be done simply by asking them open-ended questions:

‘Golly, I can see this is important to you, what can YOU do to solve this problem?’

‘Really, there is nothing you can do to fix this?’

‘What would grandma say if she was here?’

8. Allow them to feel their emotions

We are very quick to stop our children from feeling their emotions. ‘Don’t cry. Stop that. etc.

In place of this, I encourage you to use the following to state the facts ‘I can see you are cross, sad, frustrated, excited, etc. I hear …., I understand …..’ and then leave it there acknowledge where they are at.

If they will allow it, offer them a hug, resist where possible the urge to lecture your child when they are full of emotions they are not in the best place to hear and listen to what you have to say. Calm them down and then talk to them.

9. How can they be of service in your homes?

Part of being in a family means we all have a role to play, what can your child do around your home to help?

It needs to be age-appropriate and not putting their health and safety at risk but all children even the very young can help and they can all do so without financial reward!

10. Do’s rather than don’ts

Tell your children what you do want them to do rather than what you don’t want them to do. So often I hear parents listing so many don’ts: don’t shout, don’t jump on the bed, don’t talk to me like that. Perhaps just perhaps telling your child what you do want might have a better result: inside voices, beds are for sleeping in, bottoms go on chairs and feet go on the floor, please speak to me with respect.

We are all in this together and if I can help further then do reach out to me. Anisa Lewis

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Written by Anisa Lewis – Coach and Director of Positive Parenting

visit: anisalewis.com

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About The Author

Anisa Lewis

Anisa is a Positive Parenting Coach, she empowers parents with the skills and the know how to raise happy, confident kids. After all isn’t being a parent the most important job you have. In her experience, happy parents = happy kids and happy kids = happy parents. Anisa is passionate about seeing mums and dads filled with positivity about their parenting. This, in turn, filters into their families, making family life a little bit more magical, and dare I say predictable – a parent who feels armed with a full parenting tool kit is one who’s ready for the ever-changing road conditions they need to navigate as part of parenthood. When not being a parenting coach, Anisa is the mother of a vibrant and very happy 10-year-old and teaches a character filled class of 2, 3 and 4-year-olds. She likes nothing more than organising and moving furniture around much to the dislike of her husband. Her favourite food is broccoli, rice and cake!

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